Becoming HER: Defining My Dream Self

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A gentle beginning into the woman I am becoming.

When I imagine the woman I am becoming, I see her standing tall with her head held high, letting her crown catch the light. She smiles with a happiness rooted in peace, release, and choosing herself at last.

After years of being held back by fear, doubt, disappointment, and trauma, the chains have slowly fallen away. What once seemed chaotic begins to settle. The storm calms down. Sunlight pours in. She stands there radiant, thriving, and transforming.

Her smile reflects a great pride, quietly celebrating every journey she has endured. She has discovered joy inside herself and learned that love isn't solely external; it originates from within when we allow ourselves to be complete.

She embraces her inner child, the one who needed kindness, while staying mindful of her feelings. She shows herself compassion and sets boundaries around her heart, energy, family, friends, and work. She no longer stands confused at endless crossroads or prioritizes others' opinions over her own.

Now, she charts her own course, relying on her voice, intuition, and the dreams she previously silenced.

What Becoming HER Means

Before I reveal who I see myself becoming, I want to explain what Becoming HER signifies to me.

Lately, I’ve noticed many women online sharing their journeys of becoming the best versions of themselves, highlighting small, daily steps they take. That movement has quietly started to evoke a feeling within me.

One of my favorite content creators, Sayria Jade, completed a 30-day "Becoming Her" journey that deeply inspired me. I found myself watching her paint, journal, move her body, rest, and simply exist with purpose. It reminded me that becoming isn’t about perfection. It’s about choosing yourself enough to invest in the woman you want to become.

And like Yanina Oyarzo from Similarly Different said,

“You have to be tired of your shit in order to take yourself seriously.”

I recognize that I am exhausted. Exhausted from remaining confined, waiting for approval, and neglecting myself.

My first step in Becoming HER is straightforward yet impactful: identify who my ideal self is and picture her in full.

My Vision of HER

It was always believed she was destined for something bigger, driven by a desire to make an impact. I see her intentionally occupying space and gently speaking out about her passions, inspiring others to elevate with her.

She embraces her inner child by pursuing her lifelong dreams: travelling, creating, exploring different cultures, and finding beauty in places she once only imagined. She is no longer afraid and no longer feels the need to apologize.

She is thriving.
She is financially free.
She is abundant in knowledge, wisdom, and joy.

She is building a life she once believed was out of reach. Creating heartfelt businesses, caring for her family, and sharing abundance rather than dwelling in scarcity.

She builds memories with loved ones and evolves into the woman she once prayed she would become.

She is HER.
And she was always meant to be.

Becoming HER: Reflection for You

Even though this is my personal journey, I know I’m not the only one learning how to become the woman she needs to be. Every woman has her own version of HER waiting inside.

So ask yourself gently:
Who am I becoming?
What does my dream self look like?
What does she believe about herself?

Write it down.
Speak it out loud.
Dream her into existence.

The moment you start imagining her not in the future, but right now, is when you begin transforming into her.

Always Dreaming,

Deja